How To Enjoy A Happy Day.

 I know you are spooked. "Oh God! Is she writing about being happy? Is she even capable of the emotion?" Lol. I understand. For a moment, I thought;"When I qualify for ads and they put them based on my themes, will it be psychiatric hospitals and shrink ads?" lmao.
Anyway, to debunk your completely untrue perception about me, I am a very happy girl. I mean I know I haven't been so much of that lately but I sure do know how happiness feels.
Anyway, enough of the psycho-analysis and let's get down to today's business. I'd like to share with you a few ways to enjoy a happy and beautiful day. They worked for me so I guess it will be worth the try.

• Be thankful.
  

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Thank your creator or whatever you believe in for the ability to be in the jolly mood you are in. If you have been in funny moods for a while, you will understand the need to be thankful about it. Also be thankful for all the good people and things that you have and can be easily taken for granted. Take time to ask for the day to continuously go and eventually wind down well.

• Create your toughest to-do list.
  

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I am not certain how it works for other people but I am at my laziest when I am sad. I only do work if I actually do not have a choice but when I am bubbly and cheery, I can move a mountain smiling. So, I create a list (mostly a mental one) of all the stuff that I need to do starting from the hardest. Most of the time, the hardest stuff would usually be having to get my room in order or do laundry so I hop on that first. Some lively upbeat music thrown in the mix will definitely appeal to your happy senses.

• Create a "new Music" playlist.
  

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When I am in high spirits, I am open to exploring new music unlike when I'm miss moody broody and want to listen to songs that compliment my mood. The perk that comes with new music is the possibility of finding a new best tune. Very few joys can reckon with this feeling I tell ya.

• Food Food Food!!!
  

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When all else fails, eat. When all seems well, eat more. lmao. I am a certified foodie so best believe eating is a special event for me. Eat healthy except you want to be a round figure like me. Lol.

• Workout.
  

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The zeal to keep fit when I am happy comes effortlessly. I believe happiness make you want to be better so I take all the advantage I can squeeze out of it. Working out also leaves an after feeling of more happiness so it is indeed a win win situation. I purposely put a Jillian Michael's workout picture. Her routines are magic to be honest. You should totally check her out.

• Danceeeeeee!
  

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Dancing is a great way to express joy. I cannot even explain what dancing does for me;especially when it is to your own selected music. Perfect perfect way for a happy day to simmer.

• Capture The Moment.
  

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If being happy has not been a routine lately for you (which you should strive to making it a routine by the way), then I suggest on this happy morning you should get dressed, put on some make up (if you are a girl lol)and capture the moment. Take endless pictures. Your black background display pictures will thank you for it later. On the real though, take pictures and do not let go of the moment. They will serve as some hope on your dark days that things will get better.

There are so many things that can help you live a happy day to the fullest. Visit friends. Drink if you must. Attend a show. Show a stranger and loved one a random act of kindness. Do whatever your mind nudges you to. Do not feel guilty about the fact that you feel good because hunnay, in all honesty, no one is promised tomorrow.

If Bathroom Mirrors Could Talk...

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I know the popular phrase goes "If walls could talk" and I totally do not doubt that "walls" sure would have a lot to say but it just also hit me that bathroom mirrors have a lot to say too! Matter of fact, while the walls counterpart will have some freaky and x-rated tales, the bathroom mirrors will have real and personal stories.

What exactly would it tell of?

Of hidden tears and smile rehearsals?

Of hurtful plots and agenda?

Of "Count to 10 and breathe?
Of recounts of shame or being shamed?

Of verbal failures?

Of aftermath of unthinkable acts?

Of mockery after staged performances?

What exactly would it tell of?

Emotional Bankruptcy

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Were you once a cheery hearted and jolly good fellow? Did you once feel like life was a playground filled with exotic toys and decorated with millions of balloons? Did you at one point in life try to see the good outcome in every thing? Were you once empathetic to a fault? Did you once believe in love, unicorns and other false stories? Were you at some point a soul that forgave easily?  Were you ever fulfilled by just basking in the euphoria of mere dreams and future goals? Did you go to church and dance to the praise and worship without it being a bribe for God to answer a certain prayer? Did things slowly start turning sour and you thought "oh weeping may endure for a night but joy cometh in the morning"? Did that night of weeping endure for many more nights? Did the hardship all of a sudden seem like it was not for just a little while? Did you wake up to look up and see a few colored lines instead of an actual rainbow? Did the story of your life all of a sudden seem unformatted? No paragraphs, no punctuations and draggy boring chapters? Did you start getting adapted to pain? Did your eyes start seeing it's basic functionality as a crying tool rather than a seeing tool? Did you start asking God where he was? Did you do a countdown and remembrance of sins and attribute your predicament to them? Do you still feel forlorn? Have you accepted the pain as a norm? Have you asked yourself if there are principalities and powers chasing you in your village? Do bad things happen to you and you are numb to it because you are probably used to it? Do people now talk to you and you are staring at them quite alright but you cannot hear them? Do you wake up in the morning with a detailed plan of "How to frown today"? Are you now on autopilot? Wake up, go to work, repeat? Are you the life of the pity party?

I may have not exhausted it all but if all your answers are yes, you my friend have no more funds in your emotional bank account. I suggest you... Oh well, I actually have nothing to suggest. Yep, that's as empty as empty can be.

On Behalf Of The Badly Behaved.

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I am totally unapologetic for not posting for a couple of days. I fell ill and I guess the world is not fair so why waste my time apologizing when the universe owes me a ton of those?We all came to meet the world in some sort of segregation of good people and evil people. Let us not even go into the standards that are mostly responsible for these sentiments but I personally have my own "one size fits all" description of what a good person is. I think, (keyword:think) that a good person is someone who respects themselves, respects all men and respects their environment.Whichever way you want to fly that kite of a definition is up to you. 

I am not here to even talk about the "good people". As of right now, I do not even care if I am a good person. I am writing this today as an advocate of all the people that the society have termed as bad people.  Over the couple of days, I have been rude, lacking compassion, caring less about anyone's plight, caring less about my own plight, lackadaisical about everything and to be honest, really not giving a fuck. My self righteous side has been pricking me and labelling me an upcoming bad person and that was when it hit me.

People do not wake up and look in the mirror and say "Oh, you know what, how bout being a bad person for the day?" No. I refuse to believe that is how it works. Ugly situations mould people into unfriendly people. There are real real struggles out there. Not to say that some of the well behaved people have not been through some shitty situations. I personally believe that it takes some talent or some gift to have your behind all burnt and still make it out as a sunny side up egg. No. Some of us make it out just as burnt;within and without. Now after labelling these bad people, we even further make it harder to heal because we as a society want nothing to do with them thereby driving the dagger further into their already lifeless souls.

Common, we were all born babies. Are you saying that for some reason God probably had a congregation of the fetuses and went "Hey you, I want you to go into the world and be all the bad that you can be"? I sincerely think not.

So here is to the misunderstood. The rebel. The "dead within". The "existing not living". To all those who were born in a less than perfect circumstance...

I hope you find love and recognize it.

I hope the universe will one day be kind to you.

I hope you see a happy side amidst all the sadness.

I hope you break free from the tangled knitting of life's inexplicables.

I hope you find you.

I hope you'll be heard before being judged.

I hope you see the truth and accept it without questioning it.

I hope the universe counts your excuses as valid,

I hope your once pure,pure heart finds redemption.

Everybody's Free.

I am completely void of what to post today. I had quite a night...A revealing one... A magical one... A sad one...A happy one. Okay enough of writing the strange things going on in my head. 

Well, In the absence of anything of meaning to write, I remembered a song that pretty much can address a broad scope of issues(maybe just for me) so I decided to share the lyrics with you. It is called Everybody's Free To Wear Sunscreen by Baz Luhrmann. Listening to the song too might give it more meaning for you so here goes.

"Ladies and gentlemen of the class of '97
Wear sunscreen

If I could offer you only one tip for the future, sunscreen would be it
A long-term benefits of sunscreen have been proved by scientists
Whereas the rest of my advice has no basis more reliable
Than my own meandering experience, I will dispense this advice now

Enjoy the power and beauty of your youth, oh, never mind
You will not understand the power and beauty of your youth
Until they've faded, but trust me, in 20 years, you'll look back
At photos of yourself and recall in a way you can't grasp now
How much possibility lay before you and how fabulous you really looked
You are not as fat as you imagine

Don't worry about the future
Or worry, but know that worrying is as effective as trying to solve an algebra equation by chewing Bubble gum
The real troubles in your life are apt to be things that never crossed your worried mind
The kind that blindsides you at 4 p.m. On some idle Tuesday
Do one thing every day that scares you

Saying, don't be reckless with other people's hearts
Don't put up with people who are reckless with yours

Floss

Don't waste your time on jealousy
Sometimes you're ahead, sometimes you're behind
The race is long and in the end, it's only with yourself
Remember compliments you receive, forget the insults, if you succeed in doing this, tell me how
Keep your old love letters, throw away your old bank statements

Stretch

Don't feel guilty if you don't know what you want to do with your life.
The most interesting people I know didn't know at 22 what they wanted to do with their lives
Some of the most interesting 40-year-olds I know still don't
Get plenty of calcium
Be kind to your knees
You'll miss them when they're gone

Maybe you'll marry, maybe you won't
Maybe you'll have children, maybe you won't
Maybe you'll divorce at 40, maybe you'll dance the 'Funky Chicken'
On your 75th wedding anniversary
Whatever you do, don't congratulate yourself too much
Or berate yourself either
Your choices are half chance, so are everybody else's

Enjoy your body, use it every way you can
Don't be afraid of it or what other people think of it
It's the greatest instrument you'll ever own
Dance, even if you have nowhere to do it but your own living room
Read the directions even if you don't follow them
Do not read beauty magazines, they will only make you feel ugly

Brother and sister together we'll make it through
Some day a spirit will take you and guide you there
I know you've been hurting but I've been waiting to be there for you
And I'll be there just helping you out whenever I can

Get to know your parents, you never know when they'll be gone for good
Be nice to your siblings, they're your best link to your past
And the people most likely to stick with you in the future

Understand that friends come and go
But a precious few, who should hold on

Work hard to bridge the gaps in geography and lifestyle
For as the older you get, the more you need the people you knew when you were young
Live in New York City once but leave before it makes you hard
Live in northern California once but leave before it makes you soft

Travel

Accept certain inalienable truths
Prices will rise, politicians will philander, you too, will get old
And when you do, you'll fantasize that when you were young
Prices were reasonable, politicians were noble
And children respected their elders

Respect your elders

Don't expect anyone else to support you
Maybe you have a trust fund, maybe you'll have a wealthy spouse
But you never know when either one might run out

Never mess too much with your hair
Or by the time you're 40 it will look 85

Be careful whose advice you buy but be patient with those who supply it
Advice is a form of nostalgia, dispensing it is a way of fishing the past
From the disposal, wiping it off, painting over the ugly parts
And recycling it for more than it's worth

But trust me on the sunscreen

Brother and sister together we'll make it through
Some day a spirit will take you and guide you there
I know you've been hurting but I've been waiting to be there for you
And I'll be there just helping you out whenever I can

Everybody see it oh yeah yeah

Everybody see it oh yeah
He want you to feel good!'

Broken Crayons Still Colour.

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I really do not want to spend too much time beating around the bush on this post. The title is a very popular one and even more so, self explanatory. I however do intend to give it a little twist.
Being broken can make us lose self confidence and belief in ourselves. We feel worthless and unimportant and useless. Sometimes, depending on the situation, we are made to feel like we are bad people. This assertion can be made by the other parties involved in the situation but most times, by you.
I have some news for you. It is definite that sometimes, bad things will happen and you will be at the receiving end. This does not mean that good things will not happen to you. As a matter of fact, the bad things might just be the universe's way of putting you out of more harm.  The fact that you are broken or hurt either by someone, or a bad decision that you may have made does not make you a bad person.
Make yourself available for time to heal you. Look forward to all the good things that the future holds for you. Remember that you have a great part to play in what that future holds and you can be just as functional and as happy as you were before the ugly incident that has left you in pieces happened.
So what if you did not get that dream job? So what if your ex is getting married and you have not moved on? So what if everything seems topsy turvy?
I consoled myself last night with a little analogy that involves the epileptic power issue of Nigeria. You see how you are gloomy when there is no power? Your elation bounces back once the power is restored and you completely forget how bad and uneasy you felt when the power was out. Sometimes the power is out for a few minutes. Sometimes, a few hours. In some cases, a few days. Just may be it can be out for a few months and in very rare cases, a few years but the truth is that there is work going on to make sure that it is restored. Instead of dwelling in the current situation (which is totally normal by the way) for too long, try your best possible to fix your gaze and hope on the possibility of total restoration.
Do not restrict the greatness in you because you feel shortchanged in anyway because it can further cost you potential happiness. It is appointed unto you only a short time to brood and mourn over losses or dysfunctional relationships or seemingly bad situations. Brush it off and move on. Will you be reminded of it once in a while? Yes. Is it okay to breakdown for a minute? Yes. But it is definitely not okay to stay and play victim and watch the rest of your life pass you by without basking in the moments that even the highest definitions of cameras cannot capture.
Move on in your mind even if you haven't physically moved on and one day, something bigger and better will put a smile that will last for a pretty long while on your face. Do not miss the chance of contributing your greatness to the world due to bad circumstances honey. Never forget: Broken Crayons Still Colour.